I’m In A Relationship: Beware of Persuasion

Words are powerful forces that are capable of producing certain effects in the life of people. Just like an hammer, the more you hit a point, the more noticeable the effect it produces on the object at the receiving end. So is it with words.
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I have seen many relationship where an insistent demand of a wrong act resulted in what is not desired. For instance, a man that tells you to prove love to him with premarital sex can get you in the act when he remains persuasive.
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How would many end up doing what they won’t have ordinarily done? It’s because they were persuaded!
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It was through persuasion that made Samson yield to the demands of Delilah. He didn’t just fall at once, it was through her insistent demand of “Tell me where your great strength lies” (Judges 16:6).
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Delilah further asked him, “How can you say you love me, when your heart is not with me?” That brother that wants you in bed, it doesn’t matter whether he’s your fellowship coordinator or your student pastor or what have you is a ‘Delilah’.
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Many fall at this junction when they’re persuaded that “Give me sex to prove it to me that you love me”. Naturally you don’t want to but because he presses on you oftentimes with his word, you’ll open up your body to him. And like a devourer, he will satisfy his desire on you (Judges 16:16-17).
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A man won’t succeed in getting you in bed just once, but when he persuade you oftentimes, he weakens your ability to say NO. Because he knows what he wanted, he will keep saying it through words, false cares, gifts and compliments.
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Beware ladies, lest you end up in what you do not bargain for. Do you think you’re wiser than the devil in him or her that wants you to violate the law of God? No!
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Your best bet to overcome sexual persuasion or temptation is to FLEE EVERY APPEARANCE OF EVIL. My dear, you’re not smarter than the devil, your advantage over him is to yield to God’s word.
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That a man or lady ask for premarital sex from you once could be a mistake. When it occurs the second time, it’s a desire. When it occurs other times, it’s a mission he or she wants to fulfill in your life.
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Before your lot would become like Samson’s and others would use your case as an example, FLEE!
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How can I flee?
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1. Say No!
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It is the inability to say NO that oftentimes get many people into sexual sin. Saying No to sexual demands isn’t a crime when it doesn’t jeopardize your future and destiny just because of the temporal satisfaction saying yes would bring. Saying No makes you lose nothing consequential rather than say yes to face it.
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Let your words say no to his or her sexual persuasion. Let your act say no likewise. You can’t say no and you’d still be going to his house to cook or receive gift from him. You can’t say No and you’d still allow him to be caressing your body or touch you in a romantic way. Say no and don’t negotiate!
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2. Don’t negotiate
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A lot of people say No but still negotiate with the devil. How can you say no and at the same time give him conditions to fulfil? You cannot overcome the devil in a box when it raises his ugly head once, it’s better you try both the devil and the box away.
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For instance, some would say no sex before marriage but I can allow kissing, petting, caressing, erotic conversations and the likes. Some would even mortgage their lives by telling him no sex only when he will promise to marry them. Who’s fooling who?
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Samson was saying no but was still giving Delilah options on her laps. You can never win the bargain with the devil. Don’t create a scene to negotiate once you discover the evil in any relationship. Joseph didn’t negotiate with Potiphar’s wife but he fled the scenery. When ‘give it to me’ is becoming persuasive, my dear, quit!
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3. Quit the relationship
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For fear of ridicule, shame, loneliness or what people would say, many failed to quit the relationship that poses a huge threat on their lives and destiny.
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You stand to lose nothing when you quit the relationship that wants to destroy your life. Anyone that can’t embrace sexual purity with you will expose you to the consequences of sexual immoralities.
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If Samson had quit his relationship with Delilah immediately he noticed her persuasive attempt, he won’t have had his life and ministry destroyed.
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Examine that relationship you’re presently into, is he or she persuading you to do evil or sin against God? Don’t meddle with sin and call it fun. Doing it once does more damage than the fun you’d derive. Say No and mean it. Don’t negotiate with evil and without hesitation, quit the relationship.
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It is better not to do something you don’t want to do than to be persuaded to do what you’d regret over!
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016