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Have you ever imagined what would be said of a five months old baby that walks before it crawl in life?
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Life is all about timing, doing the right things at the right time gives life order and balance. There’s a time to bother oneself about whom to marry and there’s a time you don’t have to bother yourself about whom to marry.
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Quite a lot of youth, especially singles who should be busy with their lives and destiny discovery are wasting their lives in casual relationships. Going from Peter to Paul, Janet to Jennifer in search of the right partner.
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Due to this wrong mindset, many had met more than what they bargained for and are left with a negative experience in life.
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Whether you believe it or not or you’d accept it, doing the right thing at the wrong time still makes it wrong. It is only when you do the right thing at the right time that makes it right.
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How would you know the wrong time and the right time to seek for whom to marry?
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1. It is wrong to seek for whom to marry when you’re underage
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Teenagers or singles who are still spoon fed by their parents need not to bother themselves with whom to marry. You may disagree but that’s the truth.
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Why should you be bothered about whom to marry when you’re still depending on your parent or on others for virtually all that you need? Curiosity kills the unwise cat. There’s no how a teenager can be so wise and experienced to know how to fare well in a love relationship.
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The timing isn’t right to go into a relationship when you haven’t gotten a life (purpose) worth living for. Many don’t know why they exist or the reasons behind their existence, yet they want to look for the potential spouse.
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Lack of purpose discovery or facing life with the right perspective is the reason why many became victims of relationship issues. Discover yourself. Face your academics squarely or vocation. But when you allow comparative analysis to get into your head, you’ll do what others are doing and experience what they’re facing.
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2. The timing is wrong to look for whom to marry when you’re immature
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Maturity has nothing to do with age! Some people are boys with men’s appearance while some are girls with the appearance of a woman.
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How would you recognize them? Emotionally, spiritually, financially and mentally they are immature.
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It’s a big shame on you when you don’t know how to control your temper or tolerate the opposite sex based on their framework. How would you cope with your partner?
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Most issues in life has their root in the spiritual. If they still wake you up to pray, force you to pray or coerce you to be serious spiritually, don’t go near looking for whom to marry. The largest part of marriage isn’t all about romance, it’s about facing the realities of life that needed spiritual, financial and mental approach.
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If the bulk of the decision you make are still influenced by others, then you’re a weakling who would be driven by the third party in marriage. Grow up and be responsible!
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How about handling financial responsibilities? Do you have a source of income or other means to make legit money? If you can’t feed yourself well and at least one or two persons, don’t worry yourself about whom to marry lest you live a frustrated life due to your inability to put food on the table, most especially as a man.
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3. It’s wrong to seek for whom to marry when in two or five years time marriage won’t be in your agenda
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Many people believe that going into a relationship would help them to know the right person or how the opposite sex behaves, but that’s a distorted philosophy.
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You can’t know the right shoe for you by testing every shoe but you’d only know the right one by knowing your size and carefully look out for the type, color and size that fits into your life and not just your dress or situation. This also applies to finding the right partner.
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Why should you be in a relationship thinking it would end in marriage when you’re not even sure of your life and the fate of the relationship? It’s a sheer waste of time, resources and productive years that could have been channeled into something more fruitful.
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There’s time for everything under the heavens. Know the right time to find the right partner and the time not to bother yourself with the quest.
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And lest I forget, two things are involved in finding whom to marry. You can either trust in the Lord with all your heart in knowing whom to marry or you lean on your own understanding to find who suits you. The latter may take time but it’s the best and the former is usually quick but detrimental to your life.
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Right timing is everything about life. Discover your right time lest you waste away before the right time comes.
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016
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