BE ATTRACTIVE

Be comely, irresistible, sweet, powerful, respectable and admirable. Ladies who want to attract responsible guys must have these qualities:

BE SHARP : No guy can resist an intelligent lady. Some ladies pitiably believe they are not intelligent, says who? Everyone created by God has simple basic intelligence, you just need to develop it. Intelligence can either increase or stay dormant, it depends on how you develop yourself. Read good books, stay current, know what is going on in the world around you. Don't be a novice for God's sake ! Don't be so conscious of heaven you don't know whether P.D.P. is still in power or A.P.C. Be the best in your field. Keep working on your self, keep improving. Let guys be proud of taking you out. Some ladies are a national disgrace, when they open their mouths to talk, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr......

BE GODLY: When you have the backing of Supreme Divinity and you talk and behave like Him, you command attention. You are automatically put in a higher class...

BE NEAT: Dirt is repulsive, you already know that. Not having your bath daily is a sign you are not a good child of God. Demons are dirty. Any body who claims to be born again and is dirty is a child of the devil. My dear, cleanliness is next to godliness. Our God is always clean.Be clean! Bath daily, brush your teeth at least once daily. Shave, smell nice, wear clean clothes, wear clean underwears. Keep your apartment clean,don't be lazy! Sweeping, washing and wiping dirts off do not break anybody's back!

DRESS WELL: I'm sick and tired of seeingyoung, intelligent ladies who look older than their mothers. Who wants to marry a grandmother? Dress your age.

I watched the birthday party of a 60 years old woman recently and I screamed! The woman looked thirty! All her daughters looked. like her sisters. Her son looked like her boyfriend. Her skin was so clean, soft and succulent. Her teeth were white, well set an enchanting. Her hair was glossy and well packed. The red skirt and blouse she wore suited her perfectly. Then she had a young spirit; she spoke to the young M.C like she would to a pal, her husband just kept pouring encomiums! Please dress your age. It's not a sin to wear fitted clothes. Stop using

scaff to hide the dandruff on your head! If you,plait, plait styles that fit you, if you fix, find your style, if you like wearing wig, go for something nice. Wear clothes that corresponds with your shape. If you are busty, you know you can't wear low neckline, unless you want to cause accidents on the road. Ladies with big thighs can't wear mini skirts, you will shift men's attention from your brain to your body. Now, you don't want any guy to see you as a sex symbol.

Wear make up to accentuate your beauty. See, people get things wrong here. Some ladies are naturally beautiful so they need no make up but some need to just step up! I don't know why some ladies won't apply simple wisdom, nay, common sense! Take Gloria Bamiloye for example, that woman is a raving beauty, makeup or no make up, she's an head turner. When I saw Pastor Bimbo Odukoya with very little make up, I could not believe she was the one. Pretty? Naaaaaaaaah! She needed to accentuate! With some make up? Oh my God! Make your lips succulent. Shape up your

eyebrows, apply powder on your oily face, make your face attractive.

GET A LIFE! : Common, why should you be a beggar? Get your own job. Be financially independent. Don't wait for aPrince Charming to come and rescue you from your self imposed problems. Rescue yourself! Pay your bills, feed your self. Take charge of your life. Be in control. Have a measure of power over your life. Be in charge! You send signals to guys you are not cheap and anybody who wanna marry you should thank his stars!

NEVER BE DESPERATE: Now this is a huge turn off. The law of attraction says we pursue those who keep away from us and keep away from those who pursue us. No matter how madly in love you are with a guy, do not pursue him. Let him do the chase! The great book says "He that findeth a wife..." not "She that findeth a husband...". Put your heart in a cage. Lock it tightly, don't allow it to fly arround. It's so thrilling when the guy does the chase, the calls, the dating, you are on top of the world...

ACCEPT YOURSELF: Never compare your self with anybody. Accept yourself just the way you are. People will treat you the way you treat yourself. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You can never be Omotola Jolade and she can never be you. There are things you have she doesn't so focus on your strengths and not your weaknesses. When you are comfortable in your own skin, guys go crazy for you.

HAVE A VISION: You are on earth with a mission. Find your purpose. Develop it and be a shining star in your generation...

I love you so much.Keep shining!

By Seun Oladele 

HELP! I DON'T LIKE HIS LOOK!

Lots of ladies have sought for my help on how to like their partner's looks or what to do when a good guy proposes but his looks is a turn off! I didn't like my guy's looks either!

Dewunmi was fond of wearing big trousers and over sized shirts! He used a wrong kind of mouth wash that gave me a wrong impression and worse off all,  he would come chasing me in one super grand father,  old-cargo robe that made me get angry!

When he came to see my dad the first time,  he was wearing an ill fitted, second-hand trousers on a pair of slippers and I'm sure my father would have pitied me! Of all the men in the whole world,  why???

But I liked him. I liked the man behind the clothe and decided to work on the clothe since that was the problem!

He had to get rid of the mouth wash,  got a new one. Got fitting trousers and nice shirts!

After we got married,  he still got some brand new baggy trousers so I decided to the shopping myself. I got what I wanted for him and oh boy,  my hubby looked so cute!

It's history today. He wears no baggy anymore. His clothes are smart and he looks decades younger than his age! Isn't that sweet? But it wasn't that sweet at the beginning!

Marrying God's will doesn't mean they will be perfect. God will give you raw material to work on that is why you are in his life or God wouldn't bother to give him to you. You are in his life to help him where he is weak and vice versa. That is why you are called a HELP-MEET!

You must differentiate between not liking him and not liking his looks. You must like and love the person you are marrying. The looks is a different ball game entirely!

If you like him and he is teachable,  you can help him look better. That's your job as his help- meet but if you don't like him based on serious/basic flaws, incompatibility and other reasons you can't cope with in marriage,  you really need to pray again. What a lot of singles call God's will is nothing but stupidity and senselessness! Read Amos 3:3 if your core values,  vision and beliefs are not compatible!

I liked Dewunmi a lot. I was in love with him too. He was and he's still such a cute guy! Compared with being tush and violent,  stingy or being adulterous,  his archaic look was just a little problem that could be fixed!

I will rather marry an ancient looking guy who loves me so deeply,  takes care of me,  is gentle,  loving and caring than marry a tush or sexy guy who is murderous,  crazy,  materialistic,  a flirt and a cheat! I am not ready to die of high blood pressure in marriage!

If you truly loves him and he is God's will for you,  help him look better. He may not know he is not looking his best.

But if you don't like and love him,  loose him and let him go!

God will give you a man you will love,  respect and admire at the right time.

My Dewunmi is so cute and I love him so. I made him so!

Isn't that wonderful?

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

By Seun Oladele

3 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE AND AFTER YOU GET MARRIED

3 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE AND AFTER YOU GET MARRIED

And enjoy bliss for life!

 1.  MARRIAGE IS VERY SPIRITUAL: know this fast and save your head from unnecessary headache in marriage. God created marriage. The devil hates marriage. God says it is good. The devil says it is bad and always seek to ruin it. Some fights in marriage are not normal. They are demonic. That is why more marriages keep breaking down despite the many relationship coaches, marriage counsellors, psychologists, match makers, marriage prophets/prophetesses, etc springing out daily. The Bible says "We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers..." It is not your spouse giving you trouble most of the time, it is the demon behind the action. I read a book where it was revealed some witches gathered in one African country to fast and pray against marriages for 200 days! Whenever you see an upsurge in serious marital crises, cyclone of domestic violence and king of all, divorce, you are seeing the activities of witchcraft! What is the solution? Pray for marriage daily and obey the word of God day and night. Some unpleasant attitudes some people put up in marriage are not normal, they are demonic! You need to bind the spirit behind it and cast it out of your home.

 2.  MARRIAGE IS VERY SEXUAL: I teach singles how to keep their virginity till marriage and how to enjoy sex after marriage. Both must be balanced. Sex is one of the leading causes of divorce world wide. You are going to be having sex in marriage an average of 144 times in a year. If your marriage lacks passionate love making or it is sex starved, your marriage will suffer in the long run. Learn how to have good sex in marriage. Be very good in bed. It is an asset you will thank your God you have.

 3.  MARRIAGE IS MONEY INTENSIVE

You may choose to start with nothing and owe everyone around including pepper seller and landlord! Your finance must grow in marriage! Children don't stay small forever. They will eat, they will go to school and you know the cost of university education these days! Living in a single room apartment with 3 kids is a curse! Break out of every financial limitation by engaging in kingdom endeavours and engage in multiple streams of income. I am hosting "How To Make  Money Online" Next Friday. Get registered and learn how to make more money for yourself and family. Be dilligent at work and ask God to promote you. Endeavour to build your house as soon as you can so all your savings won't be going into rents! God bless landlords! The rate at which house rent keeps increasing at astronomical rate is alarming. Work towards financial freedom as you work on your marriage so you can have peace.

May the good Lord grant you understanding.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

By Seun Oladele